Dedicated Stupidity

OK, I can see you totally dumfounded that by but bear with me as I try to explain.

As my husband Phil and I were walking across the footbridge to Adelaide Oval for a night game, we support the Adelaide Crows. It was cold, wet and miserable. I ask Phil “Are we dedicated or stupid going to the game?”, and the lady walking behind us called it dedicated stupidity.

Fans do all sorts of things for the love of their team, doesn’t matter if its football, soccer, hockey, baseball, your sport of choice. I love seeing the dedicated fans and their rooms to their team and all. Painting your house in team colors is a little much but it’s still amazing none the less.

Passion – I love the passion of fans getting dressed up and all on the day. Wearing your team colors no matter what. Late last year, the Crows lost their Coach who had only coached 8 games in tragic circumstances. It was a case of wearing the colors for all the wrong reasons but it brought the fan base closer together.

I guess where the stupidity comes in is the fair weather fans. We all know them, when the team is winning, doing great they are on board but as soon as one mistake, one loss and they run like hell. They are the ones who know how to fix the problems, they are the ones who have all the answers and will shove their opinion down your throat.

The recent events with the White Sox are proof of that. Starting out with a great season, everyone was happy and then the wheels fell off and everyone is said to trade this person or that one. That because of Chris Sale’s snap, he needs to go. That would have to be a grand slam deal according to Hawk Harrelson. Chris might actually have done the club house a favor by having that snap letting off some steam when it was hard for anyone to it publicly. Trade deadline is coming soon and it will be interesting to see how loud those fans do the screaming.

With Football (NFL and college) coming soon, I think they are some of the most passionate fans I have ever met and watched on television. Answer me one thing, WHY in sub – zero weather would you be outside in no shirt and wearing a cheese on your head? (green bay fans please explain) (now that is dedicated stupidity)

Since I have started looking in on the Chicago Bears, those are the most frustrated. Jay Cutler has not lived up to the standards that everyone has, they should be playing post season and I have a feeling that a lot of fans this season will become the frustrated stupid fans. I don’t mean that as an insult. I get the frustration, and how it can and does overflow when the season goes on and going into the 4th quarter you have the win, and win up losing the game. It happens anywhere in any game.

Then there is the rare breed of dedicated stupidity, fans who go hell for leather, will blow apart the team when things just completely fall apart, scream at the top of their lungs but, then each week pull on the team colors and get behind the team with everything crossed for a great win.


So, here is the question:

Are you a dedicated stupidity fan?





Way Beyond my Comfort Zone

cropped-1509187_10151790863085373_1105883732_n.jpgWhen I started writing it was a way to keep my sanity after Phil had his accident. I soon discovered that my lifelong dream was starting to become reality.

I opened my first blog, getting some feedback which I had to learn to take on board, it was not personal it was about my work. I had to get in the right mind-set of how I could make my work even better. 3 years later I have come to discover that I have to find the positives in the feedback, take those little things and use them when I write the next entry.

Opening up the sports blogs was such a huge step. I was raised on Ohio State football and baseball.  I love my sports and will usually turn on Sportscenter over breakfast or busy reading my Twitter feeds to get caught up on what I have missed overnight. I have basically taken what I love and turned it into a way of life.

I wrote my first book a couple of years ago, I wrote my first book. It was just a collection of my blogs with an introduction to each chapter. I self published and all. It was a real learning curve, as I had lots of decisions to make about all the little things and the fact I was really putting myself out there but I already do that each time I hit the publish button.

Late last year I decided it was time for another trip into the unknown, outside the comfort zone as far as I could get, writing my first novel.

There, I said it. I wrote my first novel. Something that puts fear in every writer.

Being a well schooled blogger I know that I have a 1,000 words or less in which to get the job done. OK, I hear you but that is the standards I have set for myself and they work. I can open, make my points and close in less than 1,000 words. In a blog I don’t have the item to be descriptive or anything really. I have to make my points and get out.

Learning to write beyond your comfort is a huge step. In a novel you are responsible for everything, creating characters, their background, telling a story. The hardest part was making sure the story flowed from one chapter to the next. I have never written conservation until now.

It has been fun taking the story idea and putting it down, taking the heroine to hell and bringing her back to finally having love and the man of her dreams.

I am hoping by Christmas to publish this step outside the comfort zone. It has been fun and scary all at the same time, like that first hill on a roller coaster.

Hope this made some kind of sense.

Here’s the question – When is the last time you stepped outside your comfort zone for your passion?



How I got a job in Chicago by way of Australia

1621773_411924682270980_1520233027_nWith my love of sports and a unique life journey I started writing when Phil had his accident, to keep me from going around the twist.

Slowly I have found an audience in lots of ways, from creating different blogs. The sports blog have found their audience, going better than I have ever expected. Living in Australia and working on US time is a bit of a challenge. Basically I don’t sleep from the time baseball season starts and NFL ends. Phil thinks I am nuts but I love what I do.

The yarn or wool blog is a great way to help track projects and catch up with other knitters and crocheters.

the blog “the 19th floor” was started as a request from my Phil, but also as therapy during this year as we have mourned the loss of Coach Walsh. July 3 will be a year since the terrible day. I didn’t realize how raw the events still were.

Why have I told you that, so I can tell you this. . . .

Roaming around a Facebook post yesterday talking about fair weather fans and getting really frustrated how people think the White Sox season is already over. I connected with a really nice person in the threat and the next thing I knew we got to talking about writing and all.

Before too long a video call took place and they said, I have an offer for you. I jumped at the chance, and before I knew it I was having an interview with the Chairman of the company.

By the end of the day, I had an offer from a major media company in Chicago to write for them. It’s unpaid but you know, I don’t care. OK, you’re going are you nuts, but it is going to pay in other ways. It is an offer I can’t wait to get stuck into.

This new journey is going to be amazing and I can’t wait to see what happens next


Dear Link

20160520_091808Morning little Man,

I hope you are well. You are growing so fast and I can’t believe your 6 months old already. You have the best Mommy and Daddy and I know they are over the moon to have you with them.

I hope that one day I will get to meet you in person.

I wanted to share with you a bit about Grandpa Gary who you are named after.

He was this amazing man so full of knowledge and loved being a teacher. Even from miles away he taught me so much. He told me about sunrises and how special they are. That God gives us what we can handle for the day, when its day to take care of you. You can’t change the events of the day. Why waste energy on things you can’t change?

Don’t forget to pay attention to the little things around you, you don’t want to miss those special things.

Grandpa loved life, and I have a feeling he would be in love with you. He is looking down on you and I hope that everyone will tell you lots of stories about him when you get older.

Take care little guy,

Aunt Cricket



Periscope 1 and Cricket 0

OK, Periscope …..YOU WIN


I’m tired of trying to scope and you freezing up just as I am getting started or like the other night you froze in the MIDDLE of my scope.

I’m tired of trying to build an audience and you can’t even get the notifications correct to help. You create un-necessary things to give the trolls and all a better chance of disrupting a scope then fixing the simple things that need fixed.

I have over 1200 people following me and I could only get SEVEN for a recent scope.

I do the very best I can with what I have to work with but you STILL make it difficult for the little guys like me to have any success. Give me one good reason WHY I should keep scoping when you still refuse to create a level playing field.

Guess I go from Scoping to being a  watcher.

Who is going to miss the little guys like me?




The Hormonal Week from HELL

20160520_091808So, this could be too much info for guys, you might want to head to the man cave on this one.

Now, my sisters. We are all heading for the change of life, or hormonal hell. so far I have been lucky, hot flashes, lack of sleep and mood swings but it’s the mood swings that are driving me insane. It is those feelings of being totally useless and who needs me moods. The creeping in of lack of self-confidence and just what the bloody hell am I doing wrong.  Throw into the mix a big shot of anxiety and you have my week. I have cried lots of tears and felt so useless most of the week.

I got snipped years ago, so  having that done it is not the loss of not being able to have kids that I am feeling most. It’s the changes that are really getting me. I have never had great self-confidence and thought of myself as pretty or anything but it’s the inner stuff that I have come to learn to trust. I’m a writer and you develop the gut instinct that tells you when to walk away from a piece, that if you edit it too much more you will lose what you are trying to share with your readers. I work damn hard to just have my stuff noticed but I also am so sensitive and I put everyone before me. I am still learning how to take care of me first and understanding that it is OK to tell the rest of the world to get lost for a few hours.

This week I have had to sort out what really is hormones and what is really me. For those of you who don’t know, I am adopted so I really don’t have the medical history to know how my biological Mom got through this stage of life. (those questions will never get answered). My Doctor told me to try it and if it works great, if not keep trying. To be honest this week I wanted to give up.  I have avoided some close friends this week, so they would not have to go through all of this. Have I done the right thing by staying away so they would not have to experience my melt down?

I have a hard time asking for help, just putting pride aside. I would rather suffer in silence then to put too many people through the ramblings of a mad woman going through the change.

Just remember, it’s not you. You are stronger than you give yourself credit for, you’re an amazing person who has lots to offer the world.

Head to your happy place to find some peace and tell the world to get stuff for a while. You deserve it.

Today is a good day, I am looking for the positives and focusing on those. If I feel like I am heading for that melt down, it’s off to my happy place;

Watching Jake pitch.

Paying it forward

Today in my Monday coffee scope I was asked if moving to Australia helped me, sure it did.

The biggest life lesson I learned was from a wonderful gentleman that I never got to meet in real life.

Gary taught me, when the sun comes up, the high powers give us for the day all that we can handle. When the sun goes down, we cant change anything that happened. Let it go. It’s time to take care of you. Recharge your batteries and get ready for tomorrow.

I never realized how much I was holding on too until I learned that. I also discovered that at night it really is OK, to just sit and watch television.

Letting go of the little things that waste time and energy, your missing the little things in your life journey.

When is the last time you noticed how blue the sky is, how green the grass is, how bright the sunshine is?